Real Time Parenting

Real Time Parenting

It’s impossible to be a parent in 2016. Living constantly under a viral microscope of social media has all but dashed any hope parents ever had.With every move documented in real-time on social media, parents seem to have lost control of their real lives. What has for years been a cute story at the dinner table about the time Ma lost you as a kid at the local mela  will today be a hotly contested topic---that too amid strangers online who feel they not only have the right to comment and judge but also to take action, in the form of harassment, badgering, or even phone calls to authorities. There is no such thing as an honest mistake for parents anymore.

Perfect parenting has never existed; but before the onslaught of social media we didn’t hear about the traumatic accidents and close calls as much. We can’t spank our children because some may term it as child abuse. We can’t give in to their tantrums because that would mean we are spoiling them; we cannot stick up for them or discipline because we would just be adding to the problem. If we hover over them and try to protect them from getting into trouble that would be “helicoptering” and if  we don’t, it would be negligence !

Don’t expect kids to think logically;they just do not respond to plans and persuasion ; they do not care about consequences. What do you do then, when your son is throwing tantrum, screaming and crying because you did not get him his favourite icecream or you forbade your daughter from going to a late night disco party? If they were an employee, you could fire them, but parents cannot.

Charulata Ravi Kumar ,columnist, leadership coach for corporate, teaches communication and leadership at premier colleges in India. Here she talks at length about the challenges of parenting in the 21 st Century.

 Dr Spock may have been the ultimate in parenting for a child’s unidimensional world of Mommy, Daddy & Me. But in today’s new universe the extended family includes Uncle Facebook, Aunt Amazon, Friends Myntra, Koovs, Twitter and Youtube and Mentors Scoopwhoop, Tinder, Snapchat and of course Best friend What’s App. We used to worry about the friends our children played with, the neighborhood we live in or even the TV programs they watch. Boy! Weren’t those the easy times! Today, we worry why they have only cyber friends, why is the neighbourhood only a small screen and why is it social media over TV.

“We parents are hard to please aren’t we? But imagine the plight of our children. The new universe they live in has them at the epicenter with the numerous social media influencers tugging at them in all directions. Their life is changing real time. Information surrounds them unabashedly, leading them to believe completely in all that is thrown at them. Resisting this will only distance them from us parents.”

“We parent’s are losing power over children and  this fear is turning us into control freaks, suspicious of everything and everyone around them. We snoop on them, we preach to them, we denounce their world as bad. We want them to learn everything. But only everything that WE want them to learn. We impose our preconditioned rights and wrongs on them and want them to be … well… like us. “

Charulata believes it is time for parents to change. “ the game of power has to change”, she says, adding, “parents are NOT always right. Imposing our value systems, philosophies and principles will only alienate them from us. These must be used as guiding thoughts alone and not to rule. Statements like “We always obeyed our parents… we never talked back… we never questioned rules and customs” etc are so passé. These are false benchmarks created to validate our power plays on them. We must encourage our children to question and challenge. It is the very seed of innovative thinking and free spirit. “

“Resistance to the new world of Social Media has to change.  Just because this was not our world does not make it bad. Its inevitability demands its embrace. Sensitizing our children to its limits and repercussions of overuse will need to be constantly administered--=in doses of support, not forceful implants. We need to allow them the freedom to navigate through the many layers of digital cacophony and in doing so they will discover the good, the bad and the ugly.

India has one of the world’s highest rates of suicide among people aged between 15 years and 29 years.As per a WHO report the pressures of academic performance is a key factor in this. Life stresses for them have become intense and support to overcome these are not keeping up.

“When your child picks up the ipad to surf for games and songs, don’t be suspicious; enjoy their discovery with them. I have rekindled my love for music, video games and JLT fun-time.  Maroon 5 and Taylor Swift, and games like Pinball and Immortals have brought out the young teen in me once again.”, she says.

We parents lived in one world. They live in two – the virtual and the real are now blended. Rather than resisting and shunning their world as evil, we must understand it deeper. That is if we want to help our kids in their journey through this new world and not just parent in the old-world way.

Because we parents are history and our children are carving out a new future.

Are we ready for them?

Greensole: No One Goes Barefoot

Greensole: No One Goes Barefoot

How many pairs of shoes do we discard each year? What would you say if I told you the shoes you cast away can be revamped, overhauled and remade as good as new?

The World Health Organisation (WHO) estimates that almost 1.5 billion people undergo pain because of infections caused by unprotected feet.

An independent, social venture, Greensole saw the immense potential in recycling discarded footwear with the sole aim of covering every barefoot along with creating employment. There’s an environmental angle too--- the undertaking is playing a vital role in protecting the environment by curtailing the waste generated and doing away with the Carbon Dioxide emission. Manufacturing of a pair of shoes generates 30 lbs of emission, which is equivalent to leaving a 100 -watt bulb burning for a week.

As athletes, Shriyans  Bhandari and Ramesh Dhami ran hundreds of kilometers each year throwing away 3 to 4 pairs of shoes  Hitting upon the idea of making discarded shoes usable and with some research they were able to revamp sports shoes with intact soles into comfortable slippers. This is how their journey began.

Twenty-two year old Dhami who is the co-founder of the venture was born in Prachinti, a small village in Pittorgarh (UP). He ran away from home at 10 because of troubles at home and traveled across north India eking a living out of odd jobs.

Like most runaway youngsters he arrived in Mumbai 2 years later with dreams of becoming an actor.

He lived on the footpath, going hungry, doing drugs and committing petty crimes till he came in contact with the NGO Saathi where he learnt to read and write and make paper bags. The NGO encouraged him to take up sports and that’s how he met Shriyans Bhandari at the Priyadarshini Park.

Bhandari hailed from a business family with roots in Rajasthan and was a Management student at Mumbai’s Jai Hind College. Both shared their passion for running. On one occasion Dhami noticed that his shoes were wearing out quickly, but the soles were intact. Not able to afford a new pair he fashioned a pair of slippers with some glue and tyre tubing.

Both joined hands and set up Greensole in 2015 funding their venture with cash prizes they won in business competitions. Within a few months of setting up their venture,they had provided footwear to 10,000 people in need across villages in India.

 Although, the idea was appreciated by all the duo got their major breakthrough when they presented the idea in an exhibition at Entrepreneurship Development Institute of India, Ahmadabad, in 2014. They were selected among the top 30 innovators of country. The idea was also accorded with the Technology and Sustainability Award in Eureka, International Business Plan Competition of IIT Bombay and the venture received funding worth Rs. 3 lakh.

Lack of experience in the field was a major hurdle..in their search they landed at

Thakkar Bappa Colony in Mumbai,famous for its shoe market, where they gathered information regarding shoe manufacturing.  To take up refurbishing on a large scale, GreenSole took Ram Fashion Exports on board, a company manufacturing shoes since the past 53 years. GreenSole is based on the concept of collecting, recycling the discarded footwear and then distributing them.

The project also has partnership with 17 corporates like Tata Group, JLL, India Bulls etc. Discarded footwear is collected from these corporates and from a collection centre, then sent to their factory in Navi Mumbai  to make them reusable. The refurbished footwear is then distributed in schools across villages. 

A chunk of the footwear manufactured is also sold by Greensole to make itself sustainable. It has been successful and has provided footwear to the students in schools across the villages like Murbad, Naroli, Kalsuri, Mokhada.

 Lauded by  Ratan Tata, Chairman Emeritus of Tata Sons, and Barack Obama, President of USA.Shriyans believes  “Business and philanthropy can go hand in hand.”

 Having taken the first steps successfully, Shriyans hopes to provide footwear to 50,000  in 2016 and 100,000 by 2017. If you can give a pair of discarded shoes, we can give you a new pair for Rs. 199 to 1,499 depending on the design.!

Genetic Testing for Breast Cancer

Genetic Testing for Breast Cancer: How it Helps

Thanks to Angelina Jolie, there has been much talk in recent years about the possibility of genetic testing to check an individual’s risk of developing breast cancer. Ever since the actor underwent preventable double mastectomy after discovering that she carried gene mutations, more people are interested in understanding the concept and whether risk reduction is actually possible.

Do I have a genetically higher risk of suffering from breast cancer? Are most breast cancers attributable to gene mutation? Will all people with mutation in BRCA-(cancer causing genes) go on to develop breast cancer? When it comes to genetic testing for cancers, a lot of questions abound in the minds of common people. While the “Angelina Jolie Effect” raised much awareness about the hereditary breast and ovarian cancer syndrome (HBOC), there are a lot of prevalent myths and misconceptions that need to be cleared.

What is genetic testing?

Simply, put, genetic testing searches for specific changes in a person’s DNA .Genetic changes can have harmful, beneficial, neutral (no effect). Mutations that are harmful may increase a person’s chance, or risk, of developing a disease such as cancer. Overall, inherited mutations are thought to play a role in about 5 to 10 per cent of all cancers.

Breast Cancer: The problem

Breast cancer is today the leading cause of cancer related deaths in women in India, surpassing cervical cancer. According to estimates of World Health Organization (WHO), roughly 144,937 women in India were detected with breast cancer in 2012 and 70,218 died of it, making it one death for every two new diagnoses. With the incidence of the disease rising by more than 20% since 2008, India is expected to have a whopping 200,000 new cases of breast cancer per year by 2030.

Age, sex, ethnicity and genetic predisposition are main risk factors for breast cancer. However, today there has also been a rise in risk factors propelled by lifestyle. Like diabetes, hypertension and cardiovascular disease, rise in breast cancer incidence in India can also be attributed to the increase in urbanization, rapid adoption of westernized lifestyles, and shift in reproductive behavior, with increasing number of younger women reporting the disease.

Women who are diagnosed at a younger age also are more likely to have a mutated BRCA1 or BRCA2 genes which present poor prognosis. Doctors are also reporting the prevalence of more aggressive cancers in younger women. Hence, it becomes important to educate and create awareness about the need of genetic counseling and genetic testing for breast cancer.

What is Genetic Mutation?

Some women have a genetic mutation in the tumor-suppressing BRCA1 and BRCA2 genes. These genes, in normal cells, help prevent cancer by making proteins that keep the cells from growing abnormally. However, in case there is a genetic mutation in these genes, the risk of cancer is high for both breast as well as ovaries.

In people with normal genes, the risk of breast cancer is 12 per cent. Yet, in a person with mutation in BRCA 1 genes, the risk stands at 50-80 per cent and in a person with mutation in BRCA 2 genes, the risk is 40-70 per cent.

Similar is the case with ovarian cancer. While an individual with normal genes stands a 1-2 per cent risk of developing ovarian cancer, a person with BRCA 1 mutation has her risk amplified to 24-40 per cent and 11-18 per cent in case of BRCA mutation.

The cancer risk is amplified by mutation in both genes or one. We need to bust the prevailing myth that one of the BRCA genes is responsible for breast cancer, while the other for ovarian cancer.

Benefits of testing for BRCA1/2: Is Genetic testing a foolproof solution?

A lot of concerned women ask whether undergoing genetic testing and having its results in hand will help them prevent breast and ovarian cancer with utmost certainty. Or whether having a gene mutation means they will certainly develop the disease at some point of time in life. The answer to both questions is no.

Although they are at increased risk, not all people with BRCA1/2 mutations go on to develop cancer. Among those who do develop cancer, the age of onset and type of cancer varies. The BRCA1/2 mutations run in families. They may be inherited from a person’s mother or father. There is a 50 per cent (or one in two) chance that a child born to a parent who carries a mutation in one of these genes shall inherit the mutation.

The test cannot predict ‘if’ or ‘when’ the person will develop breast or ovarian cancer; it can only determine if he or she is at risk because of the faulty gene(s). However, a negative test result affords freedom from anxiety about either your/your progeny’s risk for inheriting the family’s cancer susceptibility. At the same time, an early diagnosis of a positive result could mean better overall prognosis or outlook.

·  If you test positive, you can consult your genetic counselor and decide on taking a preventive action such as a preventive removal of the ovaries and breasts.

·  If you test positive, you would also know the need to be additionally alert against these diseases; so that you will make sure you undergo regular screenings and mammography. Early diagnosis of breast cancer makes  a big difference to life and death, and also ensures you have to undergo less aggressive treatments as compared to people diagnosed in later stages.

·  The Food and Drug Administration (FDA), U.S.A., has approved several drugs, and drug combinations for breast cancer prevention, and treatment. Tamoxifen and Raloxifene reduce the risk of developing breast cancer, and are used for risk management among women who carryBRCA1/2 mutations.

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Who should undergo genetic testing?

Individuals with family history of any of these conditions should undergo testing:

·  Cancer in both breasts in the same woman.

·  Breast cancer diagnosed  before  50 years of age.

·  Breast and ovarian cancers in either the same woman, or in the same family.

·  Multiple tumors found in the same breast.

·  Two or more primary types of BRCA1- or BRCA2-related cancers in a single family member.

·  Case of male breast cancer.

·  Certain ethnicities, such as the Ashkenazi Jews.

What are the tests available in India?

A battery of genetic tests is available in India: Hotspot testing, Carrier testing, Full gene sequencing, Deletion/duplication analysis, and Breast Ovarian Cancer Panel (Massive Parallel Sequencing analysis of multiple genes including BRCA1/2).

CORE Diagnostics offers the entire range of testing, along with free genetic counseling for guiding medical follow-up.

Ms. Anika Parashar, COO, Fortis La Femme and a globally renowned counsellor believes that it’s not only the severity of the disease but also the stigma around it that is to be dealt with it. 

What are the common stigmas and how can they be tackled?

 The foremost stigma about Breast Cancer is that it changes your life forever. It leaves you with physical and emotional devastation, wounded in both body and spirit. And while you mostly recover, you can never return to your life like before. Plucked from the healthy herd, you are branded a “survivor” – and nothing will ever be the same. You are confirmed to be completely cured of it only if you die of something else.”

But all of this can be tackled by positive counselling of the patient and  the family. Counselling can help you to cope better with the many difficulties you face, during and after your cancer diagnosis and treatment. It can help reduce the stress you face and improve your quality of life.It has also been scientifically proven that women experienced a boost in their immunty. A counsellor may help you to find different ways of coping that had not occurred to you before. And because counselling is confidential, you can be honest about what is bothering you. 

 Breast cancer & related issues

There are a few things about breastcancer which, if taken care off can keep you away from it! First and foremost, know your breasts, the feel and lookof your breasts and hence a monthly self-examination is key. Breast self-examination should be done immediately after your periods and if you notice any mass, lump, retraction or discharge from nipples or an uneven size of the breasts you must consult a physician.  The risk factor increases when you have a family history of a breast carcinoma.

Apart from the family history there are other factors like aging, benign breast problems, early exposure to ionizing radiation, having children later in life or not at all, lack of exercise and drinking alcohol. All women above the age of 40 should have an annual mammography. Early breast cancer is completely treatable .All breast cancers are not the same! Some grow early, some grow fast and hence the prognosis for all is not the same. Breast awareness can help reduce the deaths from breast cancer, so be Breast Aware! 

There are a few concerns which often come handy with Breast Cancer. Nutritional status and dietary intake play a significant role in the prognosis of breast cancer patients and may modify the progression of disease, as well as influence risk for comorbid conditions, such as osteoporosis and cardiovascular disease. Some other common late effects include an early menopause, emotional distress and depression, fatigue or insomnia (trouble sleeping), fear of recurrence, sexuality and intimacy issues. 

Enterprise Digital Summit 2016

India Must Bridge Digital & Capability Gap

India, which has led other developing nations as being the largest exporter of information technology services and skilled manpower among developing countries, is trailing China in digitally transforming its economy? Is there a resurgence now?  The World Development Report (WDR) , recently  released by the World Bank sheds light on  reaping the benefits of digital transformation.

As far as the Internet is concerned China has stolen the march---of the top 20 internet companies, 5 are Chinese. It’s largest e-commerce company Taobao, a website for online shopping similar to eBay and Amazon, operated by Alibaba Group. has a market capitalisation that is 25 times higher than that of Flipkart, the largest e-commerce company in India.

Another major factor—as of  2014 India had 227 million Internet users, compared to 665 million in China; barely two out of every five Indian businesses had an online presence compared to almost two-thirds of firms in China. India needs to bridge the digital access and capability gap.

There is also an urgent need to improve quality of basic infrastructure — expressways, logistics, storage, postal delivery system and reliable supply of electricity — and adopt a more open  mind  towards innovations like mobile money or even ride-sharing services—in  order to facilitate easy entry of start-ups. Indian  IT professionals excel in  Silicon Valley yet the average Indian worker falls short of  his Chinese counterpart. The key is improving overall business climate and  the quality of human capital--around 25 per cent of India’s adult population cannot read and write compared to less than 5 per cent in China.

Understanding that digital transformation is at the fore of every industry and segment, was the theme of the  Enterprise Digital Transformation (EDT) Summit 2016, which concluded in Mumbai recently? The summit was aimed at looking at business through the lens of technical capabilities and how they could impact operations and revenues.  The summit was hosted by HP and the Economic Times.

Panel discussions focused on systematic planning for consistent revenue generation from digital businesses, .Only 27 per cent of the enterprises today have a logical and consistent digital strategy that sets out how the firm will create further digital business. Experts emphasised the need for concerted efforts to take the various digital initiatives across businesses to account and create a clear digital vision that maps the delivery of the revenue-generating digital experience.

It is expected that by 2018, 67 per cent of the 2000 global enterprises will have digital transformation at the centre of their corporate strategy. In other words digital transformation  is the final of 3 steps; the first being digital competence,and the second digital literacy. To put it in layman terms it simply means ‘going paperless’. This will affect not just businesses but other areas too such science, art, government, education and mass communication.

The summit offered a diverse mix of engaging keynotes, panel discussions, where leaders of the industry and noted public figures PP Choudhary (minister for Information & Technology and filmmaker Karan Johar among others, came together to discuss the journey of digital transformation.

The government also strongly believes in the need of digitization of commercial services.  “For the policy maker, digital readiness means the ability to use digital technologies to reach out to citizens and involve citizens in the process of growth, separating the gap between the haves and have- nots. We should think not only of Digital India today, but think of the opportunities presented by the Digital India of tomorrow. Not being digitally ready is not an option; Digital India is an imperative for our nation to be ready to face tomorrow,"he commented.

Karan Johar provided insights on the role of technology in digitizing the world of cinema. He added, "I'm one of the rare few people from the current lot of filmmakers who made the shift to digital editing, along with Aditya Chopra. There's been a sea change within the film fraternity when it comes to using technology. I actually edited all my films using literally a scissor in hand, snipping and slicing film together. Technology means you can try fade-ins and blurs and after the initial excitement died down, we understood how to make the most of the technology that was here to stay. The whole change has been completely, diametrically phenomenal."

The event not only consisted of the policy makers, but also the policy executors. Various sectors converged at the event, namely banking, power, trading, consumer technology, etc.

Ashish Kumar Chauhan (MD & CEO, Bombay Stock Exchange), sharing his expertise in trading and dependence of technology and IT in their daily business awed  the audience with insights into the functioning of the  the BSE. He divulged that BSE requires only 60 micro seconds for a trade transaction to be completed.

In the coming years, Bombay Stock Exchange intends to reduce this time to nanoseconds, all with the help of enterprise technology. He explained, "Technology comes in waves, and over time those waves have become shorter. Now, those waves are hitting us virtually every day. Over the last 30 years, digital technologies have changed the world fundamentally. “IT to me, is binding glue for the organization. Only the IT head knows everything about the entire organization since they work closely with each division, he added.

India has been one of the early successes in digital revolution leading in software development and information services. A case in point is the Aadhaar digital ID  which has now become a model  for other countries too. Whether the new initiatives will generate even greater and more widely shared digital dividends — faster growth, more jobs, and better services — depends not only on expanding affordable access to all, but also on making long overdue progress on the analogue complements of digital investments .

The WDR argues that digital dividends are not spreading rapidly enough? This is because of 2 major reasons--nearly 60 per cent of the world's people are still offline and,, some of the perceived benefits of the internet are being neutralized by new risks. So how can we alleviate the risks? While the World Bank has stressed the need for increased connectivity it has also emphasized the need for better regulations so that companies can innovate and compete, improve skills, make institutions more accountable so that the needs and demands of the citizens are addressed by the government.

The Key Elements of Digital Transformation

There is a total of three core or key elements that contribute towards successful starting and development of the process of digital transformation, and they are given below.

·         By 2015, about 90% of jobs will need information and communication technology-related skills

·         A whopping 93% of marketers are now making use of social media for enhancing their image, selling products and getting in touch with customers.

2016 charmed Mumbai with its exuberant list of the industry’s best speakers from various sectors talking about the role of technology in developing and identifying new business strategies to make the most of future growth. The summit offered a diverse mix of engaging keynotes, panel discussions, where leaders of the industry and noted public figures like Karan Johar (film-maker), PP Choudhary (H'ble Minister for Information & Technology, Government of India) among others, came together to discuss the journey of digital transformation.

The Government also strongly believes in the need of digitization of commercial services. PP Choudhary (Honourable Minister for Information & Technology, Government of India) being realistic about the current scenario commented “For the policy maker, digital readiness means the ability to use digital technologies to reach out to citizens and involve citizens in the process of growth, separating the gap between the haves and have nots. We should think not only of Digital India today, but think of the opportunities presented by the Digital India of tomorrow. Not being digitally ready is not an option; Digital India is an imperative for our nation to be ready to face tomorrow."

Also present at the event was eminent film-maker, Karan Johar who provided insights on the role of technology in digitizing the world of cinema. He added, "I'm one of the rare few people from the current lot of filmmakers who made the shift to digital editing, along with Aditya Chopra. There's been a sea change within the film fraternity when it comes to using technology. I actually edited all my films using literally a scissor in hand, snipping and slicing film together. Technology means you can try fade-ins and blurs and after the initial excitement died down, we understood how to make the most of the technology that was here to stay. The whole change has been completely, diametrically phenomenal."

The event not only consisted of the policy makers, but also the policy executors. Various sectors converged at the event, namely banking, power, trading, consumer technology, etc.

Ashish Kumar Chauhan (Managing Director & CEO, Bombay Stock Exchange), sharing his expertise in trading & dependence of technology & IT on their daily business kept the audience in awe of the art the BSE uses for its functioning. He divulged that BSE requires only 60 micro seconds for a trade transaction to be completed. In the coming years, Bombay Stock Exchange intends to reduce this time to nanoseconds, all with the help of enterprise technology. He explained, "Technology comes in waves, and over time those waves have become shorter. Now, those waves are hitting us virtually every day. Over the last 30 years, digital technologies have changed the world fundamentally. IT to me, is binding glue for the organization. Only the IT head knows everything about the entire organization since they work closely with each division.”

The Economic Times Enterprise Digital Transformation 2016 closed with felicitations to the key players of the industry, followed by a networking session among the speakers and delegates present at the event.

The event will be attended by top bureaucrats and industry leaders, which includes Uday Ghare (Vice President, Digital Services, Communications, Media and Entertainment at Tech Mahindra), Golok Kumar Simli (Principal Consultant & Head Technology, Passport Seva, Ministry of External Affairs, Government of India), Deepak Sharma (CDO, Kotak Mahindra Bank) and others will engage in panels and chats on the pertinent topics in the segment.

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